with how solitary and introverted I am in most IRL settings… people always get so surprised to find out I’m poly
I dunno, I guess to them “someone in a polycule” means “someone with insatiable sex drive and/or need for constant companionship; one partner could never be enough”
when for me it means “someone who rarely needs sex or even social interaction… and at those times doesn’t usually care much who it is, as long as there’s affection and trust… and would rather live with people whose needs CAN get satisfied by someone else, instead of it ALL being on me”