with how solitary and introverted I am in most IRL settings… people always get so surprised to find out I’m poly
I dunno, I guess to them “someone in a polycule” means “someone with insatiable sex drive and/or need for constant companionship; one partner could never be enough”
when for me it means “someone who rarely needs sex or even social interaction… and at those times doesn’t usually care much who it is, as long as there’s affection and trust… and would rather live with people whose needs CAN get satisfied by someone else, instead of it ALL being on me”
a grey-ace/grey-aro polycule is like… a math study group
for people who don’t particularly like math, but sometimes have to study for it
and the bigger it is, the more chance two people will have to study for math at the same time and can help each other
instead of pestering someone who doesn’t need to study for math right now & would rather be doing other stuff