dominacetrix:

Honestly, even if someone managed to prove that non-monogamous relationships are statistically more likely to end or last less time on average than monogamous ones, I don’t think that would prove monogamy is better. I actually wouldn’t be surprised if this is the case. What this would probably mean is that non-mono people are more willing and able to leave a situation that is no longer mutually healthy and fulfilling, due to, on average, being more self aware and communicative of their wants and needs and having better support networks. I think the fixation on this point by anti-poly people just shows that they’re terrified of change in their relationships and projecting that on everyone else.

Honestly I always thought it was simple arithmetic.

If people are in a relationship together, and any one of them leaving the relationship counts as it “failing” or “breaking up,” then of course there’s more likelihood of it happening in a poly relationship because there’s more relationships that could fail

if romantic relationships between any 2 people already have a greater than 50% chance of breakup, it’s remarkable how many of us polycules DO stay together for as long as we do