i think ‘I trust you with my life but not your own’ as a trope is one of the ones that can always fuck me up no matter what
“I trust you with my life because you are good and kind and noble–I know you will not hesitate to do everything in your power to save me.
I do not trust you with your own life because you are good and kind and noble–I know you would not hesitate to sacrifice yourself to save me.”
THAT is where it’s at!!!!!
yes yes yes!
and if they’re both dangerously low-self-esteem and self-sacrificing it can sometimes look like:
“I trust you with my life because I don’t care about my life.
I do not trust you with your own life, because I care about yours.”