not sure it’s wise for me to get involved in “gender neutral dude” discourse, because i don’t have any particularly strong feelings about whatever gendered words I’m called

but i will say

usually, in most cases, if there’s a word with well-established masculine and feminine versions, i would slightly prefer to be called the feminine one

EXCEPT for “dude” and “guy”

i would rather be called “dude” if the alternative is calling me “dudette”

i would rather be included in “you guys” if the alternative is “you guys… and the one gal”

like.

If the well-established feminine version of the word is something that sounds egregiously sexist, then… i’d rather not

like. i’d slightly prefer the masculine version. but something else, or nothing, would be even better.

but again. this is not a particularly strong feeling, so take that however you want