I feel like “hating yourself” is becoming the new… idk, Stress, or Overweight, or whatever everyone assumes your real problem is, no matter how clearly you describe the actual problem you’re having

I act self-deprecating? “Oh you have low self-esteem.” I act confident? “Oh you have low self-esteem and are overcompensating”

I see a therapist about a bad habit i want to unlearn? “You need to learn to be kind to yourself about it and not blame yourself” yes, i was already not blaming myself for it and i was already focused on being kind to myself… that is why I’m going to a therapist instead of, idk, just hiding in a room hitting myself on the head for not being able to willpower myself magically into perfection. I don’t know why you (a therapist) automatically assume that me seeking therapy is a symptom of self-loathing, but that is fucking concerning

I mention a thing about me that is not even a bad habit and is perfectly fine, but I’m worried about how there’s lots of bigoted assholes in the world who might still treat me badly for it? “Don’t worry, that absolutely doesn’t make you a bad person (according to some objective moral code that shall remain unspecified)” THANKS BUT THAT WASN’T MY DAMN CONCERN. now I’m gonna dump my entire soda over your head and tell you that you don’t get to be upset about it because it was my bad decision and not yours. Fuck this.