post-grammatic-stress:

If you’ve ever told a person who’s had to be bedbound for a period of time that you wish you could “just stay in bed”, DO IT.

Stay in bed. For days. But don’t get up if someone needs you to, or you get bored, or you get antsy. Don’t do anything other than rest. Just lie in your bed, whether you need to get stuff done around the house or socialize or anything else “productive”. You’ll have to cancel on people, you’ll disappoint them, they won’t understand.

And if you’re thinking, “well, i CAN’T just be in bed. There’s stuff that has to be done - I have plans”, maybe ask yourself why you assumed a disabled person doesn’t have plans or things to do or desires.

There are times when I can imagine thinking this, but I can only imagine it coming from the mindset, “I wish I could lie in bed as much as my body seems to need to, without losing my job and my home and then dying. Instead of what seems likely to actually happen in my life…. which is: i keep working until it gives me a health crisis that leaves me entirely bedbound, and then I either lose my job and home and die, or manage to qualify for whatever allows people to survive bedridden for long periods of time without losing their home and dying.”

Any of which would be actually hell. I’m not sure which would be the most hellish. So whenever the thought crosses my mind I just repress it and tell myself I just hope none of it happens.