when you have suffered a severe trauma that still influences your daily anxieties and gives you recurring nightmares twenty-plus years later

…there are probably some circumstances where you might perhaps benefit from visiting the place where it happened, or meeting with other people who were involved

but, typically not in a celebratory setting where you are expected to reminisce fondly about the whole thing

in a mingled crowd of the comrades who shared your trauma, and the attackers who caused it

in other news:

as usual, I will not be attending any high school reunions this year. thank you

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