I think it was bad actually for Morpheus to try to wake up Neo. He should’ve let Neo figure it out on his own, really none of Morpheus’s business. It’s kind of problematic to make jokes about waking up from the Matrix, it pressures Matrix-aware men to wake up when maybe they don’t want to.
Really weird having people hem and haw over the hypothetical ethics of hypothetical egg cracking when, like, I very likely wouldn’t be alive on the world if I hadn’t been asked “do you think you might be trans?”
Just say you prefer the comfort of cis men to the lives of trans women and get the fuck out of my face.
there was something so fucking crushing about finally figuring it out and coming out to a bunch of people and saying “so after considering things, i think I might be a girl” and their reaction was “finally!!”
as if everyone else was in on a revelation that they didnt think was important enough to bring up with me directly. it was shattering to think that any one of them could have said something.
fuck the “egg prime directive”My egg cracked 3 weeks after meeting one of my best friends, but I didn’t come out to him (or anyone really) for 3.5 years after that. When I came out to him, he said “I kinda figured”. He’s a good friend and ally still, but, god, it would’ve been fucking nice to have your explicit support, buddy!!
I was surrounded by a lot of nominally trans-friendly people during that time. I didn’t come out for years out of fear that they (like a lot of people) support transfems in abstract, but would marginalize me in particular from their circles.
I think a lot about how much easier things would have been if I could be my true self during that time.
yeah
I may have missed what “prime directive” originally meant
because I always assumed it was about respecting people’s self-identified gender if they consistently, confidently state it… and not about never even suggesting they might be something else
like. the first time i encountered the discourse was involving some trans friends who kept telling this one other friend “you are a total egg you’re just in denial” and using she/her pronouns all the time, when the friend had not asked to be called that
the friend wasn’t upset that they had brought up the possibility at first …just uncomfortable abt how they wouldn’t let go of it, after making it clear that was what they thought
so like. i didn’t realize anyone was claiming you should never even mention the possibility of “hey i feel like you might be trans, maybe sometime you could try exploring that”
because obviously that is not an inherently bad thing to do. obviously that can help a whole hell of a lot to make sure a person is accepted as they are, no matter what they end up exploring
I was always more star trek than matrix fan anyway
and since “prime directive=noninterference” originated with star trek….
i kinda feel like mentioning that i prefer when starship captains interpreted that directive as “don’t make decisions on behalf of another planet’s civilization without asking them”
and I did not much like it when they interpreted it as “don’t offer them help, ever, even if it looks like they really need it”