Speaking as an arospec person with three partners, I have long suspected that the venn diagram off aromantics and polyamorous people has a significant overlap. When you start looking at relationships without the guise of amatonormativity, you can get all kinds of creative with it.
What is “romantic attraction”? Fucked if I know, but I like having multiple partners. I like having my small army of best friends who I get to kiss if I’m in the mood.
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Probably both to some degree, plus some degree of asexual, at least in terms of interactions with real people. But for the most part I’ve given up labeling myself. There are many labels that fit me at least partly in some way, but none I want to commit my whole identity to.
Kinda like how I am with people, I suppose.
I know I don’t have either enough sex drive or enough desire for social or romantic closeness to satisfy one other person with average needs in those areas. Yes I can get intensely needy for both sex and socializing, but it’s an infrequent thing… so if a partner is not perfectly synced to me in that regard, we’re both gonna need other partners.
I learned a long time ago that the romantic ideal of trying to be someone’s everything, their one and only, is just exhausting for me. But I do well as part of a larger group, if we’re all compatible in the right ways.
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