“you have to chose one person. ONE. who you are supposed to care about more than anyone else in your life, and if you don’t want that, there must be something fundamentally wrong with you and you’ll eventually realise you were meant to spend your whole life with this one person who you will inevitably have sex and children with” sounds like the premise to a gut twisting psychological horror movie but nooo. it’s a real life mindset shared by a frankly terrifying proportion of earth’s human population
oh and the children? you are supposed to have multiple children with this person. (1 is not enough, if you only have 1 there’s something wrong with you for that, too). and you are supposed to love the children equally with each other, but more than the partner you already spent your life being told you are supposed to love more than everyone else. yep that part’s now retconned. now that the children exist you no longer have to love that 1 person the most, you have to stop feeling that way. change your emotions and move the kids to first place. (but make sure they’re all exactly equally tied for it, that’s vital.) And remember when we told you about natural human jealousy? that part is also now retconned; if anyone in your new totally normal family ever feels jealous of anyone else in it, there is something wrong with them for that. congrats and have fun <3