I have some thoughts about what i think I’ve heard described as the “normalize loving your parents” phenomenon or something like that

The one that includes things like when you say “it’s okay to love your parents,” like it’s a revolutionary hot take, within a community of people who widely don’t love their parents and sometimes forget that it’s considered very normal in the world in general

or when someone says “pregnancy doesn’t get enough respect/accommodation as a form of disability,” in an online group that widely supports both disability rights and choosing to be childfree… and the people who regularly deal with the world outside that group are weirded out, because Out There being pregnant usually gets you treated a lot better than being permanently disabled

or when two parts of any marginalized community are debating which one is more marginalized… and they’re listing types of unfair treatment that they experience… and at least some of these unfair treatments are getting dismissed as Not Important, because they only ever happen within this particular intra-community infighting

basically…. my thought is just that sometimes it’s important to recognize both sides of this.

1. it’s important to remember when a common thing to say Within This Group is not actually common Outside the Group

2. but also important to remember that this does not make it insignificant. An opinion or behavior that you only ever see In This Group can still be really valid– or really harmful– or some combination of both. Inside The Group is still a real place with real people in it.

… I don’t know if this thought fits in the category of “hot take here, normal everywhere else” or vice versa.

But I personally haven’t seen many people act like they’re thinking this way, anywhere.